Last Saturday I was going, going, going all day… and it wasn’t restful in the slightest even though I did “fun” things I wouldn’t normally do on a work day. I have been EXHAUSTED for much of this week so I knew I needed a true rest day today. So this Saturday I have basically nothing planned other than a workout at the gym which I finished a little while ago. And it was a pretty low key workout- watching mindless television while walking on the treadmill (with varying elevation, it was indeed a workout, even if low-key.) Kev has now taken C with him to drum practice so I can have some quiet time in the house. I’m feeling tired enough I might even nap after blogging.
So how am I doing on those intentions?
- Well… I still think Kev is still carrying much of the nighttime responsibilities at home, but I’m definitely trying. I’m not doing school work in the evenings thus far (though I need to close the computer more and designate certain times for e-mail.) I’m not quite doing the 8-4 thing. On Tuesdays and Thursdays I head in with that wise colleague I mentioned in my last post around 6 a.m. and head home with him around 2. Kev takes care of his son during the day Tuesday-Friday so he drops me off and picks up his son. Wednesdays I go in with another colleague whose son stays with Kev on Wednesdays and Thursdays. She tends to run later so I often don’t get to campus until 9 those days. The past two weeks I’ve gotten up just as early on Wednesdays and written sermons, but now all the sermons are written, they just need to be revised. I might try to get a bit more sleep on Wednesdays henceforth though I might need to preserve those early morning work hours. Mondays I’ve gone in a bit later or not gone in at all and Fridays have been variable as well. I have a fair number of extra commitments this month with interview events, etc. that are making my schedule rather wonky. But… still… I’ve been staying on top of my work, more or less, and not working at home in the evenings. So… good start. Now I just need to wean myself of constant attachment to the computer and better, TRUE presence at home.
- With heading to school in the 6:00 hour two days a week and writing sermons in that hour another… early morning workouts have not been in the cards. That said, I’ve gotten in 4 good workouts a week, and usually a 5th meh workout. Often Kev and I go together and drop C at childcare in the early evening. I’ll be doing that Piloga class on Tuesdays every week I can, and there’s a step/sculpt class on Wednesday afternoons that I’ll do with the colleague who gives me a ride on those days. We tried that this week. So now I just need to figure out the plan/rhythm for the rest of the workouts. When I run I’m consistently running 4 miles now. I need to figure out what the next target or goal is? Greater distance? Greater speed? Anyhow… fitting exercise in, just not where I expected.
- Sort of gave you the sabbathkeeping update already… did have quality time with C most of last Saturday. A bit thus far today, more surely later. And again, if I can wean myself of computer dependence I’ll up the quality time during the week.
- Not sure if I’m spending half an hour a day housecleaning. I’m trying to do many of the 7 tips for a highly successful household to which Heidi linked every day. I’m definitely doing more laundry and staying on top of bathroom cleanliness, and mostly picking up after myself and helping to pick up after Caroline… still growing to do here. Working on it.
- One game night thus far, one Golden Globes night. Good stuff.
- We have night weaned! After almost a week of her joining us in bed in the middle of the night and being rather insistent that she wanted milk during which time we just calmly reminded her that she could have milk when the sun comes back until she would fall asleep between us, we had a great stretch where she slept 9+ hours four days in a row, then she resumed night waking. But when she resumed night waking she only asked for milk feebly once or twice. Now sometimes she sleeps through and sometimes she doesn’t. We’ve only had one awful night (where she woke up at 2:30 and didn’t go back to sleep until she had her morning milk) since we started this. And that was a night when Kev was trying to keep her away from me because I had a long, demanding day the next day. If she had had the opportunity to come snuggle with me she probably would have gone back to sleep, but I’m very grateful for the sacrifice Kev made so I can rest. While snuggling is sweet… I don’t sleep all that well when she’s half on top of me. As for the bedtime rituals… she’s making this a bit challenging. She doesn’t want to do anything that is clearly preparation for bed- rocking, turning the bed down, etc. She insists on nursing in our bedroom for her nighttime milk and prefers me to be on the computer and not singing to her and shushing her. She also asks for the light to stay on. Usually I will nurse her in our bedroom but still sing and shush and leave the computer shut and the light off. It is a routine of sorts… She’s fine with getting her pjs on, brushing her teeth, etc. But… she knows she’s bed bound when we nurse in the rocking chair and somehow thinks nursing in the bed will spare her… or maybe she thinks she’ll get to spend the whole night with us. I’m not sure. Anyhow… we’re closer to a steady routine. And for the most part it is paying off.
What a tedious post, eh? This is for my benefit. Holding myself accountable.
Crazy thing, the past two Saturdays I have awakened with big ideas about exam preparation or dissertation preparation and with lots of excitement about wanting to get going on that… on the day that I am not going to work. Temptation? Sigh. I’ve been doing a lot of getting ready to get ready and I think I really just need to get ready… must get through these last sermons…. and a few other extraneous commitments. And then… I’m off!
I’m preaching for the Div School community on Wednesday. Preaching about the fact that ministry is not about me/us…. preaching to (I hope) several future pastors… but feeling rather caught up in my own ego at the moment. Please pray for my ability to live the word that I preach.